I think some people are better at being happy on a regular basis than others. Some people have to work harder at feeling good, especially if something doesn’t go as planned. I’m one of those people. I’m not smiley by default and I don’t always go the optimism route when something goes wrong, but this is something I’ve been trying to work on, and I got the opportunity to test it out when I recently found out I didn’t get the job that I thought I was a shoe-in for.

One of the things  I’ve been trying to do more of lately is to stop and think before I react to something that’s just happened. In this case, I surveyed the outcome of not getting this job. On the down side, it would have been a huge bump in pay (around a 25% hike). It was also a few miles closer to the house and I knew who my new boss would be. I heard from him and another co-worker of his, that the employees are friendly and easy going, which I learned first-hand from the board who interviewed me. The interview had gone great and conversation flowed well. These thoughts definitely made me sad and a bit depressed that I didn’t get the job.

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But looking at the not-so-bad parts about not getting the job outweighed the bad. I still had all my vacation. I hate starting a new job and having zero vacation to use for months. I like my free time! We are planning on taking a week-long trip in November and possibly a trip to MN in December. This would have been hampered, if not stopped, if I had gotten the offer and couldn’t choose my start date. Even though the job was technically a few miles closer to my house, I would have to take smaller side streets to get to it, and it would have negated travel time. Yeah, a bump in pay is always nice (especially 25%), BUT we are doing fine as we are now, and money isn’t a top priority on my list when looking for jobs. I certainly wouldn’t take a pay cut, but it’s not the end-all factor when I look for a job.

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So when I weigh out these factors, it stops me from running to my bed and crying into my pillow. There are so many more things to worry about than my next job. Maybe there’s a reason I am staying where I am. I can’t see the future and I can’t see how everything is tangled together so for now, I’m going to sit back, go to work, and work on all the other things I have going on in my life. I’ve been blessed with a lot of positives in my life and a lot of good opportunities that some have not had, so I want to focus on these, because these are what I have. Focusing on what you do not have can only lead to misery and heart break.

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3 thoughts on “Happy

  1. “I’ve been blessed with a lot of positives in my life and a lot of good opportunities that some have not had, so I want to focus on these, because these are what I have. Focusing on what you do not have can only lead to misery and heart break.” This is very true! We have much to be grateful for (baseline contentment), and we only need to do our best and grow better for bonus happiness! As long as we do not unreasonably raise expectations, we have little reason end up unhappy… 🙂

  2. I had one of those interviews that I had thought went really well too, but found that I didn’t get the job either, and I just remember being so down about it. I kind of remember thinking I might have been great for the job, they just found someone MORE compatible. Who knows why we don’t get certain jobs, or why things don’t always work out in a certain place. I think I neither an optimist or a pessimist, just a realist. That is where my logic seems to go anyways.

  3. Like Bitter Ben, I thought I was going to be hired at a new job this year. When I read the posting, it sounded as if they had gone out of their way to describe me. But it turned out that at least two people had more schoolin’ and more experience than I have, so I didn’t clear the final hurdle. It’s probably OK–I would have had to move, sell a house, buy a house–a lot of work for a job that might not have been better… just different. J.

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